Greetings. Eric Bakker, naturopath from New Zealand, author of Candida Crusher. Thanks for checking out my video today. Today, we’re going to talk about toxic people. They are people that literally make you sick.
You’ve probably seen some of my previous YouTube videos where I talk about stress, particularly stress and yeast infection. Stress and the inability of your immune system to properly power up to counter a yeast infection.
One of the big reasons why a lot of people get sick with stress is people. It’s other people. In fact, I think one of the most common stressors for people is relationships that they have with other people around them. Particularly, if they’re close. This can also be in a working situation. It can be at home. It can be socially. It can be at work. There can be many different scenarios where you come into contact with people.
What I’d like you to do, particularly, if you’ve had a long-term chronic yeast infection or you’ve been unwell for a long time is try to have a good look at the relationships of people that you’ve got around you right now. You may even want to write down the names of about 10 or 15 people and then just jot down behind those names a little bit about that person. If you like that person, if you don’t like that person. This may sound like a queer exercise, but I did this with a patient recently, a lady with very bad psoriasis. In fact, with a bad vaginal yeast infection. She had a lot of digestive problems. I got her to do this exercise and she came back and said, “It’s my partner.” I said, “What do you mean it’s your partner?” She said, “My partner lives overseas and it’s giving me a lot of grief. I’ve been with this partner a long time, and I’m not really happy with the relationship at all.”
Then I said, “What are you going to do about it?” And she said, “Well, I know what I should be doing, but my heart tells me different from what my head tells me.” We had a bit of a discussion about it. I recently had a Skype consultation with this patient and found that she’d improved 100%. Her skin looked amazing. Her digestive system had improved to a very high degree. And why? Because she got rid of this toxic person out of her life.
What we can learn from this is that relationships with people around you are a bit like being outside in the garden. Gardens need maintenance just like relationships need maintenance. Sometimes we need to do a bit of serious pruning in the garden. We need to get a chainsaw or some big slashing tool and just chop whole things out. Other times, we just need to do a little bit of pruning, just a bit of light trimming. Other times, we need to do a bit of fertilizing. That’s how we’re going to get rid of some stuff or we’ve got to build some stuff up. You can extrapolate that through your relationships.
In this case, with this lady, she got a hold of a chainsaw and she cut this whole relationship out of her life. And as I said to her, “When you take a big tree out of the garden, make a bid decision in the garden, it’s a lot of work initially to do that. But once you’ve done that, it’s incredible how much light comes into the garden, how much new growth can occur. It’s the same in your relationship.” And as I said to her, “Once the pain of the breakup is gone and you eventually get on top of it, you may notice that a whole lot more light will come into your life and eventually who knows a new relationship could come in there.”
As I’ve always said in my book and also on videos, when you bring about a change, a whole change in your life occurs. When you finally make up your mind to get rid of this toxic person, your whole life will change. As painful as it may seem at the beginning, it’s going to be incredible when a light does come into your life. And sometimes people need a little bit of light pruning. You just need to talk to the person about some conflict you’ve got or some friction and overcome that. Whether it’s someone in the workplace or at home. You’re the one who makes the decision who you allow into your life. Life is precious and life is short.
In my life, I just associate with people that I like, that I get on well with. People that build me up. People that are kind to me. People that I’m kind to in return. But I will no longer have relationships with people that annoy the hell out of me or that make me sick or toxic or they get me all worked up. I just don’t allow this anymore. Sometimes it can mean letting go of jobs or dissolving businesses or getting rid of relationships. But if you take stock of these relationships and finally have the courage to make the change, you watch what happens to your health long term. All of a sudden, those symptoms that you had of 10 or 15 years duration, they’re gone. The gut problems go away. The bloating, the flatulence, the cramping in the gut, the sore shoulders or neck, the headaches, the lower back pain. All these problems, small niggly problems you’ve had for a long time, they disappear. Because many of them are, in fact, stress related problems.
Relationships cause in some cases conflict and tension inside our body. And once that relationship goes, the tension and conflict disappear. We no longer have to put up all these defense mechanisms. We no longer have to produce the stress hormones that reduce our immune function and cause pain in the body and tightness and sleeping problems. Those things all disappear.
Have a think about that. There’s a little bit of food for thought for you there. Take stock of your relationships. Do a bit of gardening. Maybe a bit of weeding, a bit of pruning, maybe a little bit of a chain sawing. Make some changes and watch what happens to your relationships long term. No pills required. No tests required. Just look at your relationships. Thanks for tuning in.